Definitions Part 6
Definitions: Changing the Uniquie Identity Filter
In the past five blogs we have examined how our unique identity (our basic personality traits), are molded and conditioned by interactions with parents, siblings, friends, employers, teachers and so forth to create a filter in our thinking through which all truth and lies must pass. No matter how true the truth, i.e. “You are really a kind, loving person,” it will be translated by the filter of a damaged identity into “But you don’t really know me. If you knew me, you wouldn’t like me either.” This person may actually be a kind, loving person and may demonstrate that in many of their behaviors, but the filter says “but if they really knew me, they wouldn’t like me.” Or, “if they get to know me, they will also reject me.” With the damaged filter, they may even set about to sabotage the relationship to prove that the filter is correct. All of this can take place virtually unknown to the person, and their ongoing struggles with relationships are confirmed as a self-fulfilling prophecy in their lives.
The Truth Filter/The Lie Filter
Changing the filter requires a truth filter that is abundantly more powerful than the lie filter. It is a process and it will not happen overnight, but it can happen as one by one, the person chooses truth over lies. Jesus said “I am the Way, the Truth and the Life.” And He said that Satan is a liar and the father of all lies and that lying is his native language.
New Filter: Choosing Truth/Refusing Lies
This method seems too simple to be believed. I propose that it is the simplicity of it that keeps us from actually practicing it—we tend to think that years of analysis is required to change this filter, but in fact, it boils down to simply choosing to believe truth and refuse lies. Jesus is Truth. He sent His Spirit to live in us, to reveal truth to us, to conform us into His image, to convict us, to teach us, to comfort us. But a damaged filter will see this and immediately begin offering excuses for why this couldn’t be truth for them. “I have failed too many times.” “I will never get it; God is fed up with me.” And on and on and on. (Examine your own system of filters and excuses as to why it won’t work for you—it may surprise you.)
The enemy of our soul is only too happy to confirm this belief system because over time he has used all of these lies to build up a “stronghold” in the person’s belief system. A stronghold is simply a fortress in our minds, built on a system of untruths and lies. The enemy has carefully constructed this stronghold and the only way to demolish this stronghold, according to 2 Corinthians 10:5, is to tear it down thought by thought, and take those lying thoughts captive to Jesus Christ.
“For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (1 Corinthians 10:3-5).
This is a war, and you will discover just how much of a war it is when you begin to put into practice choosing truth and tearing down lies. The enemy has no other weapon but the weapon of the lie. Your weapon is Truth—Jesus is Truth.
Constructing A New Filter: Who We Are In Christ:
Knowing who we are in Christ is essential to this process. I always make the suggestion to someone who is a defeated believer, that they open the Bible to Ephesians chapter 1 and begin reading, using their name in every place where Paul is telling us who we are in Christ—how Jesus sees us. For example:
- “My Lord Jesus Christ, has blessed me, Kathy Beard, in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ” (Eph. 1:3).
- “Jesus chose me in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight” (v . 4).
- “Jesus predestined me to be adopted as his sons (daughter) through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will” (v. 5).
- “to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given me in the One he loves” (v. 6).
- “In him I have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of my sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on me with all wisdom and understanding (v. 7-8).
- “Jesus made known to me the mystery of his will according to his good pleasure” (v. 9).
- “In him I was also chosen” (v. 10).
This sounds like a foreign language to those who are living as defeated, beaten down believers. It does not correspond in any way to what they believe about themselves. Yet, this is Truth. It is the “Only way, the Only truth, the Only life.”
New Definitions: Choosing/Refusing
Hypothetical Conversation as the enemy speaks an old tried and true lie:
Lie: “I have failed again; I will never get this right. I am a failure. God will finally give up on me.”
Truth: “Yes, I fail, but thanks be to God, who always leads me in triumphal procession in Christ and through me spreads everywhere the fragrance of the knowledge of him. For I am to God the aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing. I am more than a conqueror in Christ Jesus. Yes and Amen.” (2 Corinthians 2:14; Romans 8:37).
And this, my fellow believers, is how the filter gets changed and the stronghold gets demolished. Too simple you say? Try it—not for one day or even one month, do it until you are aware that you are no longer hearing or believing that lie. Then move on to the next one. Tear down the lie filter one thought at a time. Truth comes first, the feelings will follow. It is “His good pleasure;” He strongly desires that you believe this —enter into His good pleasure and experience His joy, His peace, His Truth—go ahead, step right over into this new atmosphere of Truth.